Supporting All Relationships: From the Newest to the Oldest Generation
Family Therapy can occur at any time during the treatment of an individual or couple, but it can also occur on its own. If the primary client is to be a child, then Dr. Lodrö requires that parents be involved for both parenting and family sessions. This is because younger children are greatly influenced by the dynamics within the family. While some children clearly have individual issues, it’s often the case that their issues involve a reaction to something within the family or parental system. Dr. Lodrö’s approach to Family or Systems Therapy is based on his integrative theoretical approach that was established by his dissertation work. Like his work with couples, Dr. Lodrö’s approach with families is also collaborative, where priorities and the approach to treatment is agreed upon.
What may be surprising to a lot of people is that Family Therapy can occur within only one person coming to therapy. The reason that this is possible is because we are all deeply interconnected. Therefore, working with only one person will produce results. Research has found that humans are connected emotionally, functionally and neurologically. This means that when one person decides to make significant changes, it will influence (not control or force) a response in others and alter the dynamic. Dr. Lodrö believes that the healthiest people live in ways that are good for them, despite the emotional reactions of others, but also good for their relationships. Therefore, Family Therapy with Dr. Lodrö supports both the family (even extended family) and the individual members as they work to find a new balance as everyone grows and changes.
When assessing a family or individual’s level of psychological and emotional health, Dr. Lodrö focuses on their ability to adapt to change, manage stressors and alter their maladaptive habits and behaviors. A rigid and less healthy family will be less tolerant of members acting on their individuality even though they’re maintaining connection with one another. A healthier family still experiences problems but they are able to adjust with time and support the individual development and uniqueness of each person. Dr. Lodrö’s general goal in Family Therapy, like that of Individual Therapy, is for each person to enhance themselves as much as possible while also maintaining healthy connections. If relationship issues arise, then therapy will address those before returning to the individual. Often times both subjects are worked on at the same time because that’s how life goes. The ultimate goal is for everyone to embody their fullest and most authentic-selves while also maintaining positive and healthy relationships with those who are most important to them.